Thursday 18 March 2010

"Ever Thine, Ever Mine, Ever Ours..."

Beethoven wrote this for his love in a letter some centuries ago. The word 'ever' is used so liberally and confidently by these people. A 'Happily ever after' and 'forever and ever' are words we seldom use. Or at least quite scared of. We are more of the ephemeral sorts. We like to keep things for now. For today. We don't plan ahead. Our minds are fickle. We don't know what we'd want two years from now and hence, we expect the same from others around us. Since we are so unsure of ourselves, we tend to be unsure of others. Words like 'till death do us apart' are now nice in chick flicks where the girl always gets her dream guy and her perfect dream wedding in her perfect wedding dress. The end of the movie makes you believe that she's gonna have the perfect marriage and the perfect kids with the perfect life. Just because she looked gorgeous on her wedding day. But the cynic in me now knows that a 'happily ever after' isn't for everyone. I mean, I don't want to negate any possibility. Some part of me still wants that fairy tale to realize. But just so if it doesn't, I want to take the safe shelter of being a 'grown up' and never having to be ashamed of living in my dreams.

The ads, sitcoms, videos and movies propagate the concept of 'there's no tomorrow'. Whether it's Barney in HIMYIM or the people on Emotional Atyachaar or even the protagonists of a Fast Track ad, everyone believes in instant gratification. And then I saw Veer Zaara yet again - a movie oozing with selfless love - overflowing with romance in every scene, that left me bewildered and conflicted in more ways than one.

So where are we headed? Can true love exist in the age of instant coffee and instant protection? Or is it just something we like to read about and watch? Does a couple always have to break up the moment one moves out of town? Or can love transcend boundaries, communities and more? Can love stand up for itself or do we ignore it just because it's too cumbersome? In all these questions we all want to ask ourselves - are we strong enough to love, and be loved? Not the convenient kind, but the one that demands more - much more.

In the meanwhile we can enjoy Barney's escapades, Samantha's whims and be smug in the misery (or is it?) of people who put their loved ones to the loyalty test because they don't trust them and then wail and whine the moment the 'suspect' gets cozy with a complete stranger in this sex,attention and drama starved nation.

5 comments:

  1. hey..good one..!
    I wud say - 'True Love' always exits. Thats different story that whether you get it or not..but it do exists in these times too :)

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  2. Naaice!! :)... A very emo rock feel to it :P

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  3. A notion that has recently lift its head and done a little bum-jiggle to draw some attention in my head....

    When we talk of love...we always see it in the perspective of "getting" a person who loves you till "death do us apart"-way.

    But, what about meeting a person and the time spent with this peculiar individual even more peculiarly drives you to improve yourself? (the reason be romantic or competitive). The crux remains that "true love" may come...but not necessarily to stay...just transient...but with an exemplum!

    Cheerio... :P

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  4. @daddu: i'd like to believe the same.. bt too many contradictions to it i guess :D

    @anant: i think our question is answered when in jack nicholson's words in As Good As It Gets, "You make me wanna become a better man".. yeah, when sm1 wants u to b a better human being.. thats where the buck stops i guess..

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  5. This struck a chord somewhere... Good one... Lets see how the story ends with the passage of time :) Make sure you share that too!

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